I Need a Hug...

I am struggling today. I’m not going to lie. It’s Sunday morning and I am sitting out on my balcony with my coffee. And I am struggling…and yes, those are flannel pajama pants – I’m still cold. It was a rough week at work and personally.

I think I just need a hug…a real hug. Not the “hey, bruh, how you doin’?” kind of hug, but a strong, tight hold that lasts for a few seconds and for that ever so brief period of time I feel safe. A hug that when their arms are around me, I can feel their strength and absorb some of it into myself. I just want someone to hug me like that and tell me that it’s going to be okay. I know it will be. I know I will be. I just really need a hug.

I am strong and I will get through this – if last year taught me anything it’s that. It will get better – it is already so much better than it was, but it’s just hard sometimes. Everything I post here and anywhere else is raw and real. I believe with every fiber of my being in everything I post. I know everything that happens, happens for a reason. It doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us. I know I am where I am supposed to be, at least for now. What will happen in the future? I don’t know. None of us do.

I post to remind you that not everything on social media is the truth…everyone posts their best life on social – and when the camera is off – they struggle, just like the rest of us. We’re human. We’re not perfect and we don’t have perfect lives, even though our social media accounts would lead you to think that.

You come to LinkedIn and you see notifications…"celebrate Monica…she is celebrating 17 years at XYZ Corp.” or “Hi, I’m Pete, and I just started a new job at Fantastico & Bros!” – and you’re still out of work wondering what is wrong with you?? But what those posts don’t say is that Pete was out of work for a year before he found that job – or that although Monica has been with the same company for 17 years – she’s been miserable for most of that time. You go on Facebook and see folks out and about, leading their best lives and some go home and cry in their pillows. Some "couples" are on the brink of splitting...you just don't know what is happening behind those cameras - so don't judge your life against the lives you THINK other people are living.

I post to make you think – that if everyone’s life may not be as great as they are posting on social – then maybe YOUR life is not as terrible as you think it is. Since it is Sunday, take a little reflective time to be grateful for all of the things that are going RIGHT in your life right now. Be grateful for all of the things you have in your life right now. Take a moment to look in the mirror and be grateful for all of your strength that has gotten you to this point and will get you through…Remind yourself that it will work out. You just have to hold on. Keep looking, keep working on yourself. Keep the faith – in whoever you choose to believe in, but most importantly – keep the faith in yourself.

And if you can...go get yourself a hug...and get one for me, too 💜

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